First Time MOM

Babies, Kids, Children. Tips and Tricks to handle your kids.

Why the BLOG?

I am a mother of a four years old son. When my son was born, I didn't know anything about baby and how to handle them. I learned many great things from my parents and friends. Here's are some of the things that I-wish-I-knew-that stuffs that I discovered.

I wish for

- For a home of our own (I am currently living with my parents-in-law) - For a room where the law of time doesn't apply - For a super speed internet connection

Diaper Rash

A lot of my friends baby had diaper rash but - I am proudly to say - mine not.

I owe it all to my family tradition. When a woman is pregnant in my family, they would make handmade diaper cloths. Thanks to the tradition, we have plenty of cloth diaper to use.

I know it's not very practical. But it has minimized the chance of getting diaper rash -apparently. I did use disposable diaper for my baby but only when we are going away and at night, so that we all could get a good night sleep. :)

In case of diaper rash, you can find baby lotion (it can treat diaper rash). If it's going for the worse, contact your pediatrician.

Baby Sign Language

Ever seen "Meet The Fockers"? Starring Ben Stiller, Robert de Niro and many other huge stars.

In the movie, there's a baby being Baby Sign Language by Robert de Niro. Using pictures and sign language and sound. I guess that's where my husband gets the idea to use that methode to understand our baby.

The book that my husband bought, doesn't have pictures like de Niro has. But it is using sign language (the language that the deaf and mute use). They say that babies and the parents can learn the language and communicate before the baby is able to talk.

Well, my husband bought the book alright. But we didn't get to use it at all, since my baby is almost a year old and he's learning to speak. We enjoy every word he said. At first my son could not speak the whole word. Like when he's tried to say "flower", he would say "wer" :D. We would look for every possibility to understand his words, but we do enjoy that moments :)

Soothing Baby Cries

Not every strategy will work for every baby, and some techniques may only work at certain times, depending on your baby's mood. The key is to experiment; over time, you'll figure out what's best for your baby, and when.

Re-create the womb.Your infant may be fussy because he misses his first "home," so simulating the amniotic environment can calm him. Try these techniques, together or separately:

  • Swaddle him snugly in a blanket with his arms down.
  • Hold him while he's on his side or stomach rather than his back.
  • Make shushing sounds, or create other white noise by running a hair dryer or fan (the inside of the womb sounds like a constant pulsing whoosh).
  • Jiggle him gently (the rhythmic swaying resembles the movement of the womb).
  • Give him something to suck on - either a pacifier or a finger.

Use your hands. Touch stimulates receptors in the brain that calm your baby, and
research shows that long, smooth strokes tend to work better than short, brisk ones. Try caressing your infant's cheek, back, legs, or stomach. Or keep your baby close by wearing her in a front carrier. You don't have to spend all day toting her around, but the more you touch her (giving her a mini-massage during a diaper change, for instance), the happier she'll be.

Talk. The familiar tone of Mom's voice is one of the most effective soothers for babies, according to research. So keep the chatter going - but speak quietly so your baby isn't overwhelmed.

Singing can also be calming. Don't worry if your voice doesn't sound like Norah Jones's. To your baby, you're the ultimate star. Sing calm, slow songs, such as lullabies - the body responds to music by adapting heart and respiratory rates to the tempo.

Take a drive. Driving around the block combines steady motion and white noise. If driving isn't convenient, try a vibrating bouncy seat or swing, which also have the white-noise/movement combo.

Get wet. Many moms swear by baths to calm their babies. The sound of the running water and the warmth on the skin can do wonders for a crying baby. You can get into the tub, too, to add soothing skin-to-skin contact.

Distract him. Introduce a new toy or shift his attention to the family pet or a mirror (so he can gaze at himself). He may well forget all about his cranky mood.

Keep your cool. If you get frustrated, your infant will pick up on that tension and react, and this pattern can become a cycle that's hard to break. Trying too hard to calm your baby can also backfire - some simply don't like to be handled as much as others. While you shouldn't let infants under 3 months cry it out, it's okay to let them fuss for five minutes. This will give yours the opportunity to start to figure out how to soothe himself (and it may give you a chance to regroup, too).

Keep doing what works. When you find a strategy that soothes your baby, stick to it. Trying something different every five minutes can be overstimulating. Limit yourself to two or three methods that seem to work - if one fails in one instance, try the other, instead of introducing several new techniques. You almost always get results after a day or two if you stick to a consistent pattern.

Baby Language

This is revolutionary. I saw is on Oprah's rerun last year. I wish, I heard about it when my son is still a newborn.

Between 0-3 months, infants make what Dunstan calls sound reflexes. According to Dunstan, we all have reflexes, like sneezes, hiccups, and burps, that all have a recognizable pattern when sound is added to the reflex. There are other reflexes that all babies experience, and when sound is added to these, a distinct, preemptive "cry" will occur before the infant breaks into what Dunstan calls the hysterical cry. Dunstan claims that these preemptive cries can indicate what the infant requires (e.g., food, comfort, sleep, etc.), and they escalate to the hysterical cry if they are not answered. As the infant matures past 3 months in vocalization, the sound reflexes become replaced with more elaborate babbling.

According to Dunstan, the five universal words (or sound reflexes) used by infants are:

Neh. I'm hungry - An infant uses the sound reflex "Neh" to communicate their hunger. The sound is produced when the sucking reflex is triggered, and the tongue is pushed up on the roof of the mouth.

Owh. I'm sleepy - An infant uses the sound reflex "Owh" to communicate that they are tired. The sound is produced much like an audible yawn.

Heh. I'm experiencing discomfort - An infant uses the sound reflex "Heh" to communicate stress, discomfort, or perhaps that they need a fresh diaper. The sound is produced by a response to a skin reflex, such as feeling sweat or itchiness in the bum.

Eairh. I have lower gas - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eairh" to communicate they have flatulence or an upset stomach. The sound is produced when trapped air from a belch that is unable to release and travels to the stomach where the muscles of the intestine tighten to force the air bubble out. Often, this sound will indicate that a bowel movement is in progress, and the infant will bend its knees, bringing the legs toward the torso. This leg movement assists in the ongoing process.

Eh. I need to burp - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eh" to communicate that they need to be burped. The sound is produced when a large bubble of trapped air is caught in the chest, and the reflex is trying to release this out of the mouth.

If this really true and applicable, then this is like a manual book for newborn babies :)

Stay on Blanket

Problem:
My son has a real problem on wearing blanket since he was a newborn baby. He always shoves them away. It’s not like he hates them. Maybe in his subconscious mind, he is restricted by it.

When he still was a baby, I worried about leaving him cold uncovered by a blanket while my husband and I are asleep. I tried several different tricks to make the blanket stays covering him even though he’s shoving them away. The best trick was to have a large thick blanket with a zipper and zipped it around him. He he he… outsmarting a baby :). It did not work for long though, he started to kick it real hard and I felt sorry for him and undid the zipper :p.


Solution:
The next thing happen was, I found myself browsing the baby store -I found, that the baby store provide a lot of solution for a whole lot of baby problems-. Then I found a footie. A pair of pants that close-up every part of the leg, including the feet. A blanket that shaped like a feet. Voila! My problem is solved. My son was obviously not having anymore problem with it although he stills have a problem using a blanket after he falls asleep.